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All parents without exception dream that their children will achieve success in life and gain a secure position. But what does it take?
What should mothers and fathers teach their children?
What useful skills need to be instilled? And what will be required of the parents themselves? Let’s dig in.
Every parent has their own recipe for proper upbringing. Most interestingly, all mothers and fathers wish their children an exceptionally good and happy life. So where do lazy people, failures, selfish people and neurasthenics come from? It seems not all parents are able to steer child-rearing in a constructive direction. In the future their daughters and sons may not be able to build careers and personal lives.
Rules for parents of successful children
What parenting rules are useful to follow in order to raise successful children? Here are the 10 most important ones.
Move to a nicer area
Moving is extremely problematic. Parents who want to support their children on the path to success, however, can take such a radical step. What does it look like? For example, parents moved to a part of town where their children will have the opportunity to study at a decent educational institution, attend courses, develop their talent and interact with successful peers.
An example of this might be parents who moved to more developed promising countries where great opportunities open up. Moving to the right area is a good decision to “bookmark” your child’s future.
Developing good relationships
Since 1938 specialists at Harvard University have been conducting a long-term study of the life experiences of 400 students of that institution. After nearly 70 years of observation, surveys and analysis, scientists managed to find a “recipe” for a happy and prosperous life.
The findings had nothing to do with wealth, fame or work. The surprising conclusion from this long-term study is surprisingly simple: good relationships make a person happy and healthy.
What can parents do in this regard for their children? First, develop successful relationships with family and friends and teach their children to form and maintain successful relationships.
Praise your children correctly
Parents who raise successful children praise them by reinforcing positive habits. What does that mean? Praise is for strategies and effort implemented in the course of solving problems, not for innate talents.
It can be difficult to tell right away what is what. Here are some examples.
don’t praise a child for a high score on a test, but praise how they prepared;
don’t praise a child for winning sports competitions, but note their perseverance and effort in training that made the victory possible;
don’t say: “How smart you are!” / “You’re a great artist!”. Change the thought to: “You did an excellent job on the task!” or “You draw so amazingly! You applied yourself very well!”;
The goal is to praise progress, not specific moments of success.
Don’t take on children’s responsibilities
You should not do children’s chores for them, and even more so their school homework.
It is important to instill practical skills they will need in adulthood.
Let children know they can always rely on parental support
The question concerns the ongoing debate about whether it is necessary to teach children to “not be clingy” when they are in pain and are hard to soothe “at the first call.”
You may be surprised, but experts favor the approach of “respond to the first call.” And the talk here is only about support, not solving the child’s problems for them.
If you respond to children’s emotions with support, they will grow into socially adjusted people.
Helping children become stress-resilient
Resilience to stressful situations implies the ability to recover quickly after difficult events. This is, to some extent, the foundation of success. Stress resilience allows one to move from setback to setback while maintaining enthusiasm.
Such an approach to problems will help in facing difficulties in the future.
Be a good example for your children, let them solve their problems and don’t forbid them to take risks where it is acceptable.
Protect their interests at school
There is no contradiction here. It is important to allow children to solve their problems when possible. On the other hand, the role of parents assumes acting as an authority and as a temporary defender. This happens, for example, at school. There are research results that show schools tend to ignore gifted students in favor of better performance in less capable children.
Here the mistaken assumption plays a role that talent will achieve everything by itself. But it does not. And motivated parents who are prepared to defend their children can improve the situation for the better.
Remind children of your expectations
Specialists from the University of Essex (UK) concluded that among girls whose parents placed excessive demands on them (and systematically reminded them), there is a lower rate of teenage pregnancy, they are less likely to drop out of school, and less likely to get low-paid jobs.
In other words, the more parents “pester” the child, the more successful they will be in the future. It is likely that this constant broadcasting of parental expectations will affect boys as well.
Inspire children to be entrepreneurs
Financial literacy is immensely important in today’s world, as is entrepreneurial thinking.
