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Most parents encounter the problem that their child suffers from amok or unruliness and don’t even know what it’s about. Luckily we know, and we present to you 5 mistakes parents should stop making.
If you don’t respond to this behavior of your children in time, you will affect their lives more than you can imagine.
This was also confirmed by Dr. Emma Jenner, who became known especially from the TLC TV show “Bring in the Nanny”. In it she presented 5 parenting mistakes that will sooner or later cause undesirable consequences.
According to Emma, it is normal that parents demand and expect more and more from their children, and tell them about their own problems and difficulties.
5 Mistakes Parents Keep Making
They are afraid for their children
Example: If a child wants to drink milk from a different cup and not from the usual one, parents automatically start looking for another cup instead of ignoring the request. They are afraid the child will start crying or refuse to eat.
Emma considers this a huge mistake. A child should not boss you around. Let them cry. Walk away if you don’t want to hear it. However, never give your child everything you see they want. Think about what message you are leaving them by this behavior if you give them everything just because of their crying. Will you do anything about it?
We excuse them (they’re just children)
If you excuse your children with this phrase, you encourage them to repeat this behavior and even disobedience and irresponsibility.
Children can do much more than parents expect of them. This applies to respect, behavior, chores, and self-control.
Emma says you should raise the demands you place on your children. That way you teach them how to behave appropriately for the situation.
Don’t prevent OTHERS from reprimanding them
Teachers and professors should admonish children if they do not behave properly. And parents should allow it.
After all, they are the eyes and ears of parents when they are not with them. Today it is almost impossible, because if a teacher or staff member corrects a child, parents just blow up. They don’t even try to find out what happened, or what preceded the teacher’s reaction. If you behave like this too, you are indirectly signaling to your child that neither you nor the teacher will stop inappropriate or rude behavior.
Children come first
Parents sometimes overdo it with care.
Parents adjust all their commitments and their mental well-being to their children, just to meet their expectations and needs. They should realize that they cannot give them everything. If you realize this too, you will have peace of mind and get rid of stress. Otherwise you only prove to them that they are the master of the situation.
Nothing will happen to the child if you take a little time for yourself. Nothing will happen if you occasionally tell them no.
They use easier solutions
So they don’t bore their children, they try to entertain them. And that’s where communication misunderstandings arise. When they are in a waiting room, on a plane, or cooking and cleaning, they give children tablets and phones. You must teach your children patience. They should know that food will not be cooked and prepared whenever they feel like it. Teach them to help in the kitchen when you need them there.
