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All parents use their own rules when raising a child. Statistics show that most follow rules that were passed down from generation to generation.
Innovations in this area are slowly entering our present lives thanks to excellent psychologists and educators. If your child does not listen to you, argues regularly, is rude and impolite, it’s time to think about what you did wrong and how to solve this problem.
The most important thing you can give children is based on making them aware of what they do and say. Here are a few tips that will help you raise children properly and they will then hand you a glass of water even in your old age!
Don’t shout at your child
A stale piece of advice, but always effective. When you start shouting at a child, they absorb all the aggression like a sponge and will eventually splash it back out.
Calm down, take a deep breath and think about what you did wrong. Now mentally prepare for the unpleasant situation and when the time comes, express your displeasure in a normal tone of voice.
Can’t keep yourself under control? Yes, it’s hard, there’s no doubt about that! Here is an invaluable tip that has helped many parents in raising their children. First find out exactly what is causing the irritability and shouting. Loud music? Bad grades at school? You’ve already been through this, so theoretically you should be prepared for it. After all, between the two of you you are the adult (the parent).
Count to 10. If you do that, the shouting will be unnecessary.
Don’t demand too much
Your child is surely the best thing for you even if they don’t win a medal in swimming or don’t get the top grades at school.
Don’t assume that your offspring will be the way you were at their age or that you can “use” them to fulfill all your unfulfilled dreams. Just look at what they do best and develop that!
Make a good impression
Children mirror their parents. They will take an example from everything you do and nothing will stop them from repeating it.
Astonish them with unusual abilities, show them your knowledge, strength and character. This way you can gain not only credibility, but also the fact that you will instill the very best of yourself into your child.
Discuss, help, persuade
There must be mutual understanding between you and the child. Talk about everyday life, but not just as a teacher, also as the child’s friend. Help them experience the feeling that they can always turn to you for advice. Try to do it in a way that creates in them the sense that your shared home is a fortress where they will be heard and will find help.
Convince them that they are the creators of their own life, of their failures, but also of their successes.
Great people grow up in love and mutual understanding.
Spend more time together
Even if your schedule is packed and finding time for your child is almost impossible, use it as much as possible. Reading books, visiting the theater, relaxing in nature — these positively influence your relationship and are an opportunity to teach the child useful advice. If children don’t get enough attention, they will start looking for it elsewhere and there is no guarantee that it will end well.
Don’t dodge questions
Even if your child asks you a sensitive question, don’t try to avoid the answer. Some children still cannot process the information, but any uncertainty in the answer can disrupt their perception. Answer directly but briefly if it’s an uncomfortable topic for you.
Don’t shield them from problems
Your task as a parent is to gradually prepare the child, with their carefree childlike perception, for the approaching adulthood. Don’t protect them from all problems.
The death of loved ones, family problems, or simply denying the purchase of “that beautiful toy” will strengthen your child and help build their personality.
Admit your mistakes
When you finally realize that you were wrong, for example in a conversation with your daughter or son, don’t be afraid to admit your mistake in front of them. It will not reduce your credibility; on the contrary, you will show them that people can be wrong. It’s perfectly fine to recognize it and apologize.
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