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The letter is admittedly written in a somewhat harsher tone, but it also contains something very important… Read it for yourself.
After three years I can kick you out of the house. Sounds terrible, doesn’t it?
At eighteen you have two options: either you go to university and I will support you as much as I can until you finish your studies, or you find a job. Or you can leave university (and I will never hold that against you) and go to work. And make sure you provide everything you need in life.
I will not support an eighteen-year-old girl at home because I think it is not right. You have three years to choose. Yes, we were thinking about renovating the apartment. Your room will become our bedroom.
I am not your role model
You are completely different, a unique person; you don’t have to like what I do, you have every right to not respect my authority and to ignore my orders. I have only one objection: you alone will bear responsibility for your actions.
You are free. I expect nothing from you. You can be a cleaner or a business analyst. I don’t think it is appropriate for me to interfere in your life decisions. However, don’t forget to reread the first paragraph.
You owe me nothing. I did not raise you in debt. You have the right to decide what is important and valuable to you. It’s your life and your choice.
You have a home. Whatever happens in your life, I will be here when you need me. I will support you and sympathize with you, and I will always try to help you if you ask. However, I will not intervene arbitrarily in your life.
I have my own life
It is not my duty to rush to help you at the drop of a hat, it is not my duty to give up my business just for you or to sacrifice my comfort for yours. I may, but I may not.
You have your own life. You will always decide for yourself whom you marry and whether you want to have children. You will do what your heart, conscience, and interests tell you. Because of that you will not lose me, you will not stop being my daughter, you will not become an unwanted person to me.
No one intends to harm you. It’s not easy to understand, but it’s true: everyone thinks only of themselves. Everyone behaves, under all circumstances, as they think is right. No one (mentally healthy) would knowingly destroy another person’s life.
Source: mysmezeny.sk
