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Everyone wants to be happy. We read books, watch films, attend various courses, workshops or lectures to learn how. So why isn’t that enough?
Psychologist Nick Vinyall believes we must first get rid of what makes us unhappy. In fact there are many things we do wrong. And if we fix them, we immediately feel changes in our lives.
What sabotages our happiness? It may sound boring and ordinary, but the real cause is our habits. Many of them we have had since childhood. And year after year they harm not only us, but also our chances to succeed.
Here are 6 habits you must get rid of to find the happiness you long for:
You worry about the future and what others think of you
Anxiety gives us the illusion of control. Through this habit our mind tries to solve a problem that either cannot be solved or is actually not a problem. It also creates the impression of “activity”. We don’t feel useless because at least we are trying to do something.
We hate helplessness. But let’s admit it. Sometimes we are helpless. Yes, something terrible can happen to you or to people you care about. But we’re not crazy. We can’t say what will happen in the future. Worrying about it means denying reality and demanding that it be the way we want it to be.
Does your anxiety bring you any benefit? Hardly. Admit you have this habit and try to get rid of it.
You suppress your feelings in public
Sadness in public is considered socially unacceptable unless it’s a funeral (then you can cry a little). Since childhood we have all learned to control and mask our emotions because we thought it was improper to show them. The strangest thing, however, is that we hide them even from our closest people.
