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Psychologists say that when communicating with your child there is a very important rule. It has been named the 3-minute rule.
It consists of greeting your child with such joy as if you had met a friend you haven’t seen for several years. It doesn’t matter whether you returned from the store after half an hour, came home from work, or from a business trip.
It is precisely those first three minutes when your child will want to share all their feelings and experiences with you. That’s why it’s so important not to miss them. Many parents intuitively follow the three-minute rule. For example, when they pick up a child from kindergarten, they always sit down to their eye level, hug, and talk about how they missed the child. While other parents simply take the child’s hand, say: “Come on” and continue attending to their phone.
So when you come home from work, immediately devote all your attention to the child. Relax and go to them. You have a few minutes to sit down with them, ask what they experienced during the day, and listen to their answers.
Then you can go have dinner or watch TV. If you don’t give the child that attention, they will run around you the whole evening simply because they want to talk to you, want your attention and a display of love.
Attention:
The important thing is not the length of communication, but emotional closeness! Sometimes a few minutes of an intimate conversation means more to a child than a whole day when you’re together but your mind is somewhere else.
The fact that we are constantly busy with our problems certainly will not have a positive impact on the happiness of our children, even though it may seem to us that we are doing it especially for their good.
Children need to communicate, need to have a life example, but for parents the phrase “spending time together” has a different meaning.
