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It is practically impossible for any married or partner couple in the world to never argue. It does not depend on the volume or the forcefulness of the words used. The signs of a future relationship breakdown are hidden in the way the partners argue.
1.Hra „Kdo je nejhorší“
What is it? Partners remember their past mistakes. Such relationships become real suffering.
Why is it bad? Constant reminders of past mistakes lead to dissatisfaction and attempts to make the partner seem more guilty, instead of solving the problem.
What should you do? Stop recalling your partner’s past mistakes. Forget it. Your partner’s failure three years ago is no longer important. Every person is the sum of past actions, so accept them for who they are.
2. Pasivní agrese
What is it? Instead of an open conversation about your desires and problems, your partner pushes you toward the “right” decision and secretly takes revenge on you.
Why is it bad? It’s because you are closed off in communication with your partner. There is no excuse for passive-aggressive behavior, which causes insecurity and a false sense of safety.
What should you do? Talk about your concerns and desires. And understand that your partner will support you.
3. Emoční vydírání
What is it? One of the partners who complains about the other’s behavior threatens them with a breakup. Instead of saying: „It seems to me that you are indifferent to me,“ these people say: „I cannot be with a person who shows me no feelings.“
Why is it bad? It’s emotional blackmail and creates a lot of unnecessary problems. Every small argument is blown up to the size of an elephant. It’s important for partners to feel that they can express their dissatisfaction without the relationship itself being threatened. Otherwise people suppress their feelings, which leads to distrust and manipulation.
What should you do? Surviving relationship problems is great. That means you are a normal person. However, it is important to understand that attachment to a person and love are two different things. Partners who can calmly discuss problems without blackmail and reproaches strengthen their relationship.
