“People think that a soulmate is someone who fits them perfectly. Each of us wishes to meet someone who is destined for them. But in reality a soulmate is our mirror.
It’s a person who will show you everything you hold inside, thereby focusing your attention on your mistakes and shortcomings so that you can change your current life.”– Elizabeth Gilbert.
I remember that when I was 20, I still held on to the romantic notion of a “soulmate”.
That one day you will meet the man or woman of your dreams and piece the missing parts of yourself into a single whole, thereby becoming complete.
However, this idea is completely mistaken.
While we are convinced that another person can make us complete, we consider ourselves “incomplete” and are nothing else but that.
Each of us has the strength within to achieve this unique unity, but we must not try to find the answers to our problems in another.
If we think we are only half of a whole, we are actually looking for another such person who perceives himself the same way. But what do we achieve by that?
If we feel like a broken toy, we will probably attract exactly the same broken toy.
“There is darkness, such a darkness that I cannot see any light around me. It’s because the light comes from you. You cannot see it, but everyone else can.”– Lang Leave.
Everyone has light and darkness within them, different shades of color. We will never be only ourselves or only the other. We will always be a combination of both.
In a person’s life there are moments when we feel that darkness has filled everything around us and we can’t see even a tiny light at the end of the tunnel. Then we try to find the light in someone else in order to achieve a reset and the desired balance.
A soulmate is not someone who will bring peace to your soul by sacrificing their own. Rather, a person who helps you find the light within yourself, even though the lesson from that situation may be painful for you … and usually is.
In our life we will meet people who force us to pick up the broken shards from the ground without fear of bleeding. Their lessons will force us to accept ourselves, but most importantly to accept and love those who are exactly the way we are.
A soulmate may be your friend, a family member, or a partner. Their role in your life is to be your mirror – and not glue.
“What’s the difference?” I asked. “Between the love of your life and a soulmate? One you can choose, the other you can’t.”– Tarryn Fisher, Mud Vein
