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Nowadays divorces are becoming more common, yet there are men who cheat on their wives and don’t think about divorce at all. Why is that? Here are five reasons that explain why some men stay in a relationship even when they take a mistress. These causes come both from the men themselves and from psychologists who study infidelity.
1. Comfort and security of the home environment
For many men marriage represents stability and comfort. They have a wife, children, a home, and all of that creates a solid foundation for their life. They don’t want to risk that security for an affair with a mistress who won’t provide such stability. Even if the mistress is younger and attractive, it is the wife who knows how to take care of him, from doing the laundry to handling his moods.
2. The excitement of a new adventure
For some men infidelity is a one-off affair that brings excitement and an escape from a stereotypical married life. A long-term marriage can feel dull and infidelity gives them the chance to experience something mysterious and thrilling that they don’t have to share with their wife. They can easily leave the mistress and return to ordinary family life.
3. Fear of divorce
Divorce is a nightmare for many men. It is associated with legal disputes, division of property, child custody, and the overall stress caused by lengthy court proceedings. Many men don’t want to put themselves through this complication and would rather stay in the relationship than face divorce proceedings.
4. The paradox of love
It may sound incomprehensible, but many men who are unfaithful still claim that they love their wives. Even though they have a mistress, they feel a strong emotional bond with their wife and cannot imagine leaving her. Such men believe that love for one’s wife and infidelity can exist side by side. It is a philosophical question: Is it possible to love someone and at the same time hurt them? However, this attitude does not deny that they are causing pain to their partner.
5. Children as the main reason
For most men, children are the main reason they stay in the relationship even when they are unfaithful. They don’t want to break up the family and deprive their children of a father. When their infidelity is exposed, they often appeal to the children and beg their wife for forgiveness for their sake. The result is usually a tense atmosphere at home, where both partners pretend that everything is fine even though the relationship between them is languishing.
Conclusion
Infidelity is a complex and painful topic that can deeply affect a relationship and the whole family. Whatever the reasons, it is important to realize that long-term ignoring of problems and infidelity never bring a lasting solution. Every relationship needs honesty, trust, and open communication.
