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Infidelity has nowadays become a common occurrence. If it reaches us that someone among our friends has been unfaithful, it doesn’t surprise anyone much. After all, it happens day in, day out. People cheat, break up, divorce.
But why is that? What lies behind men’s infidelity? And can it be prevented?
In today’s article we focused precisely on these questions.
Few of us have never experienced it. When a partner cheats on us, it can really shake us. For most of us it prompts a variety of questions: Why did he do it? What led him to it? Wasn’t he perhaps happy with us? Did we do something wrong? Aren’t we pretty enough? Didn’t he love us? Did we deserve it? Was it our fault?
Of course, not only women but also men experience infidelity. And believe me, at that moment they ask themselves similar questions. Today, however, we focused on men’s infidelity and tried to uncover what mainly stands behind their actions.
1) He wants to prove he still has it
One of the most common reasons a man is unfaithful is really this simple and, as it may seem to us, stupid.
So watch out for men with big egos who try to reinforce their masculinity through women. Once he’s sure of you and your interest stops tickling his ego, he may start looking for something new. Some will stick to a casual flirtation, others will go further.
2) Searching for lost romance
After a few years every relationship slides a bit into routine. Partners no longer feel the need to profess love every day; everyday practical matters take the place of romance. Yet one partner may miss the romance. Perhaps so much that he starts seeking it elsewhere.
Compared to the first point, infidelity for this reason can be relatively easily prevented. To some extent it is in your hands. It’s enough to keep tending the relationship, not to start taking the other for granted, and remember that even though there are a hundred important things that need attention, we shouldn’t forget the time devoted to our partner.
3) People change — and so do their feelings
It’s sad, but it’s true. People are constantly changing, every day, every minute. And the fact that someone loves you today is, unfortunately, no guarantee that he will love you in ten years. No one can give you such a guarantee.
If your partner has changed so much that mutual love is no longer possible, the best thing you can do is come to terms with it as quickly as possible and move on.
4) They want to unwind
Do you remember what it was like at the beginning of the relationship? What it’s like at the beginning of every relationship? The most fitting word is carefree.
Newly in love people don’t deal with any problems, they don’t worry about anything. They are happy and have the feeling that they already have everything they’ve ever wanted, and nothing that could happen will take away their happiness.
But you can’t live like that for long. Whether we like it or not, we have to start thinking practically; various matters need to be handled.
A man at home has to think about a lot of things: take care of the children, do repairs, think about things, tinker, help with something. None of that applies with a mistress.
By the way, something similar often applies to unfaithful women too.
It’s important to remember that a partner, like us, also needs peace and time to breathe. On the other hand, certain duties are part of life and it’s selfish to want to completely avoid them.
5) They want attention and care
For men this is like a proof of love. They want to be doted on and cared for. And to some extent this certainly applies to women as well! Although here a flower will please more than a tasty dinner, the principle is the same. We all long to feel cared about.
It’s not hard to show your partner from time to time that you still care about them. On the other hand, no one can expect people to jump around him like they would around a small child.
